I have decided to throw out my opinion on this whole same-sex marriage deal that is finding its way on the front of our newspapers and in the middle of media discussion. I have watched the following...

-The people of California vote for Proposition 8, stating that marriage is between a man and a woman.

- The Federal Court reverse that decision stating that same-sex marriages can happen in California.

-Another court put a hold on any change until this has been appealed probably to the Supreme Court.

Can I just say that the reason the courts are finding this so hard to deal with is because they have decided to reflect the current culture, rather than reflect the constitution. They have decided to be affected by politics rather than be an anchor of truth. The court has decided to reflect the modern aptitude for twisting reality to whatever a person's personal viewpoint may be. Why is it that society seems, at least at this point in most states, to be smarter than our highly educated courts?

I have thought long and hard about what public policy should be on this issue. I realize that my views of sin and Scripture easily inform me of what should be right and wrong, but how are these arguments to be made to an ever increasing secular and post-Christian culture? Well, I want to take a stab at it.

What about marriage? Why not let two men or two women get married? Can't we just say that we now have a better idea than civilization's teachers have had up to now, namely, that anything goes providing it is a "loving, committed, and respectful" relationship that glorifies diversity?

NOPE! Reality overshadows the voices who might like for us all to think that way. You can say up is down if you like, or you can call a duck a cow, or you can say red is green. I guess that is your right in a democratic society. However, just because you say it a lot, doesn't make it reality. You can think whatever you want, but something has to distinguish fantasy from reality.

I am going to say it...THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS GAY MARRIAGE. There...I said it. Why can I say that? Because the whole of human history has acknowledged that marriage exists for purposes no gay relationship can satisfy.

What might those purposes be? Let me take a stab at that as well:

1. How about the blending of the relationship between the only two human types there are: MALE and FEMALE. The man and woman go together...physically, emotionally, and psychologically. I mean, I am sorry if that hurts people's feelings, but that is the nature of reality. You can't make reality dance to every whim we might have as a society.

2. What about launching the human race into the future? No gay relationship can do that. I know we read about gay couples raising children, but not their own. What I mean is, not as a unified couple. Someone outside their relationship had to do the biological lifting one of the partners couldn't do. Yes, a gay couple can raise kids, but let's be honest; nature suggests strongly that the biology of a mom and dad procreating and then tending to the fruit of that union is how reality works. Reality speaks to these issues if we just open up our eyes.

I know what many say. It's the trendy response now in supposed intellectual circles. Let me respond to that too:

1. "But they are born that way". REALLY? Show me the "gay" gene or strand of DNA and your argument would hold a lot more power for me. It has already been demonstrated that 2 identical twins have turned out heterosexual and homosexual, yet both have identical genetic traits. That is powerful evidence concerning environment and/or trauma that has turned normal sexual drive and response in another direction.

2. Oh, and by the way, where does the bisexual issues fit in to all this, "I was born this way", argument? Is there a "confused" gene lurking in some people somewhere? What about the "experimentation". How can you say, "I was born this way", if there is that much ambiguity.

3. "What if they somehow prove that people are born that way"? Listen, I would still be opposed to "gay" marriage. How many men feel as if they are "born" to have sex with every female they see? How many people would say they feel a "tug" towards multiple marriage partners, kids, animals, or any other perverse thing? A "feeling" cannot be the standard we implement public policy on. There are lots of "feelings" in a human being that are not beneficial to follow.

We are doing our best as a culture to circumvent God's ways. Perhaps the day will come when homosexual marriages will be allowed. I believe we do that to our own peril. I believe it says something that cannot be sustained by reality. I know I can quote the verses that settle all of this for me, but my concern is that in an ever secularized nation that we are not only no longer listening to the wisdom of the Bible, but we are embracing fantasy as reality. God help us.

Planting a Cross

Pastor

Special Thanks to Dr. Ron Johnson and William Murchison (Syndicated Columnist) for helpful commentary.